How many of you have ever received an unexpected gift that you didn’t know what to do with it? Many of you have heard me tell the story about saving the glass daffodil when I was speaking at an event. I’ve always said, “One day, I want to show you a picture of what it looks like”. For those who have not heard the story, here goes.
When my son was 8 years old, he bought me this bright yellow and green glass daffodil as a gift. It didn’t match my décor. My response was “Oh…thank you” because that is what you say when you receive a gift. Three days later he woke up crying, he said “Momma, I dreamed you sold it in a garage sale!” “Crap, now I have to keep it” I lamented to myself.
What do you do with an unexpected gift
As a mom, I wanted to keep it, but as someone who liked things “just right”, I needed to find a home for it. After much experimenting and wandering around my home, I found the perfect place, a container for my sweetener packets. Ten years later I showed my son the glass daffodil and asked, “Do you remember where this glass daffodil came from?” “No maam”, was his reply. “Seriously, now I am attached to this silly thing”, I thought.
The glass daffodil came to be a lesson that I would teach others. Many people are afraid to get rid of an unexpected gift that they don’t like, because it may offend the giver. The truth is they may not remember, but the bigger thing is that we should not allow others to control us by making us feel guilty.
“Why am I saving the glass daffodil?”, you may be thinking. It is a reminder that I kept gifts over the years because they made me feel that I was loved and cared for. I realized that the clutter of all my presents was covering the clutter in my mind of past rejections. I am still learning to release certain things and become uncluttered in my mind and space. At times I still pass on gifts that are not my favorite, but have found a use for the glass daffodil. When I look at that unexpected gift, it makes me smile.
If you have an unwanted or unexpected gift story, I would love to hear what you did with it. Maybe you’d like a suggestion! Contact me.
Lisa Giesler, Professional Organizer, Life Coach, Author